Self image and self esteem is a huge deal to all guys, women too, but really for guys. Women don't usually need to do much to attract a guy, usually just stand there and look good, maybe carry an air of mystery, and that's enough. For men though, it's tougher than women know. Men usually have no clue how to communicate with the opposite sex and fumble their way through a "conversation", usually screwing it up within the first 2 sentences. This will have an impact on a guy's self esteem. Learning how to communicate with females is an art most men need to actually study and commit to memory in order for it to eventually become a natural thing.
The way a guy look physically really has very little to do with how successful he is with a woman. It's a lot more than that. So hiding behind sports magazines or playing "blind man" in front of the boob-tube watching football or whatever is not going to win you any dates, or experience with women. If you don't get out, you will never find a girlfriend. Period!
The most common mistake that men make is that they go into seduction way too soon. Women find that kind of behavior creepy. Also it makes them understand you don't know what you are doing. Women have a built-in, subconscious and instinctive mechanism for choosing the strongest males of the clan. If you act like and alpha male, looks will be very secondary to attraction.
So before even going up and speaking to a woman you should be attracting her across the room. The best way to get women to notice you is by displaying the body language of an alpha male. Your shoulders should be back and down, pulling slightly at the sides of your neck. Your stride should be double the length of a normal stride. Your head should be straight and your eyes should be kept at eye level and looking, at people's eyes and faces.
Move around the room and keep up a light chatter with some of the people around you while now and again, looking in her direction. Make eye contact a few times and slowly (not TOO slowly) make your way across to her. Never keep a lady waiting. By now she is more than a little interested in you and is probably wondering who you are (if she hasn't already made a few discreet inquiries already). You may not have her eager to leave the party with you immediately, but you certainly have her attention, which is the entire aim of the game in this case. If you got this far, then well done.
So now you approach her. Awesome. So now what do you do? Firstly, don't panic and blow the whole thing. Move to her side and turn very slightly towards her. Your bodies should make a "V" shape. You don't want to come across as eager. Puppies are eager, you are cool. She will more than likely be with some friends and is chatting with them, so now and again, if you have something relevant to say or add to the conversation, do so. Just don't stand there like a dummy smiling like a fool looking awkward. She will talk back. Now if the place is crowded and loud, don't keep leaning into her and say "what?" or I can't hear you". Simply turn your ear towards her frowning slightly, and she will catch on.
If she does catch on that you can't quite hear what she is saying, she will lean towards you to make herself heard. This is a great sign because she is using her body language to tell you she is interested, maybe even attracted to you. Remember by playing it cool, she will be picking up on your alpha manliness, which she is hardwired to find attractive.
After a few minutes of conversation, touch her shoulder or hand for a few seconds. Be deliberate about it but keep the touch light and without moving around. Keep touching her every few minutes for a few seconds but keep the touch "buddy style" until sexuality is injected. Here it is important to heighten her emotionally and to relate on that level, so get her to talk about anything that made her feel happy, sad or embarrassed.
Now is the fun part. Start thinking about things that arouse you. Don't go completely "porn king" now, you don't want any embarrassing situations to...arise. Just enough so that she will be able to feel the subtle change in you, hear it in your voice and be affected by the timber of your voice. She will more than likely be doing the same thing. She will probably be dying for you to kiss her...at the very least, but that is for later, much later, when you have worked your "emotional magic" on her for a couple more hours.
And that is when things can really pick up the pace. You just may be surprised by the outcome. So play it cool and she will play straight into your hands...lap, whichever.
The way a guy look physically really has very little to do with how successful he is with a woman. It's a lot more than that. So hiding behind sports magazines or playing "blind man" in front of the boob-tube watching football or whatever is not going to win you any dates, or experience with women. If you don't get out, you will never find a girlfriend. Period!
The most common mistake that men make is that they go into seduction way too soon. Women find that kind of behavior creepy. Also it makes them understand you don't know what you are doing. Women have a built-in, subconscious and instinctive mechanism for choosing the strongest males of the clan. If you act like and alpha male, looks will be very secondary to attraction.
So before even going up and speaking to a woman you should be attracting her across the room. The best way to get women to notice you is by displaying the body language of an alpha male. Your shoulders should be back and down, pulling slightly at the sides of your neck. Your stride should be double the length of a normal stride. Your head should be straight and your eyes should be kept at eye level and looking, at people's eyes and faces.
Move around the room and keep up a light chatter with some of the people around you while now and again, looking in her direction. Make eye contact a few times and slowly (not TOO slowly) make your way across to her. Never keep a lady waiting. By now she is more than a little interested in you and is probably wondering who you are (if she hasn't already made a few discreet inquiries already). You may not have her eager to leave the party with you immediately, but you certainly have her attention, which is the entire aim of the game in this case. If you got this far, then well done.
So now you approach her. Awesome. So now what do you do? Firstly, don't panic and blow the whole thing. Move to her side and turn very slightly towards her. Your bodies should make a "V" shape. You don't want to come across as eager. Puppies are eager, you are cool. She will more than likely be with some friends and is chatting with them, so now and again, if you have something relevant to say or add to the conversation, do so. Just don't stand there like a dummy smiling like a fool looking awkward. She will talk back. Now if the place is crowded and loud, don't keep leaning into her and say "what?" or I can't hear you". Simply turn your ear towards her frowning slightly, and she will catch on.
If she does catch on that you can't quite hear what she is saying, she will lean towards you to make herself heard. This is a great sign because she is using her body language to tell you she is interested, maybe even attracted to you. Remember by playing it cool, she will be picking up on your alpha manliness, which she is hardwired to find attractive.
After a few minutes of conversation, touch her shoulder or hand for a few seconds. Be deliberate about it but keep the touch light and without moving around. Keep touching her every few minutes for a few seconds but keep the touch "buddy style" until sexuality is injected. Here it is important to heighten her emotionally and to relate on that level, so get her to talk about anything that made her feel happy, sad or embarrassed.
Now is the fun part. Start thinking about things that arouse you. Don't go completely "porn king" now, you don't want any embarrassing situations to...arise. Just enough so that she will be able to feel the subtle change in you, hear it in your voice and be affected by the timber of your voice. She will more than likely be doing the same thing. She will probably be dying for you to kiss her...at the very least, but that is for later, much later, when you have worked your "emotional magic" on her for a couple more hours.
And that is when things can really pick up the pace. You just may be surprised by the outcome. So play it cool and she will play straight into your hands...lap, whichever.
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