The most horrible, unpleasant and stressing memory for anybody could be something which is exceptionally aggravating for their well being and physical assault is one of such horrendous circumstances. It is difficult to examine this issue however you need to continue trusting that regardless of what happened or how awful it was, yet at the same time rape doesnt define me.
It could be that he took you out for a date and that night ended up with taking away the most precious thing from you. It could be that even after the incident you would have to come face to face with the same person again especially if he was your friend or colleague.
This is a true story of a girl and after that incident she started avoiding going in campus dining halls and gym because that person used to be there and she wanted to avoid him as much as she could. Her life was just revolving around how to avoid that assaulter and she started to compromise her schedules and quality because of that person. After she got raped she was unable to trust men around her.
There comes a time when you start blaming yourself for everything that happened to you. You would avoid to face the same individual again at any cost which in return makes you feel more depressed, lonely and sad. Keep remembering it was not something you wanted to happen at all.
There was a time when that girl started avoiding men and she did not wanted to get closer to men and there was a constant feeling that you are not clean because he raped you. You will face tough times questioning your own self that how did you even let this whole thing happen in the first place. At that time she decided she needs a break from everything.
That girl began going to the places she was avoiding before and decided to go to gym where he used to come and then started facing that person rather than running away from that place because she wanted to show him that she's strong enough and can deal with this situation. All these little steps were very helpful for her to get her life back on track.
That was the time when she at last chose to help different casualties who were experiencing this circumstance since it gave her inclination that by helping other people she can really deliver retribution from her assaulter and demonstrating to him that her life has not halted on account of this occurrence and she is certainly not a frail individual.
It can take years for you to tell your story after such an incident but you should never feel ashamed of yourself because it was not something that happened because of you or you were not at fault. You will go through many emotional phases and although what happened to you was horrible but still you have to learn how to trust people again. Rape cannot define your personality it was just a very bad phase of you life and it was a horrible time but things do get better with time all you need is faith.
It could be that he took you out for a date and that night ended up with taking away the most precious thing from you. It could be that even after the incident you would have to come face to face with the same person again especially if he was your friend or colleague.
This is a true story of a girl and after that incident she started avoiding going in campus dining halls and gym because that person used to be there and she wanted to avoid him as much as she could. Her life was just revolving around how to avoid that assaulter and she started to compromise her schedules and quality because of that person. After she got raped she was unable to trust men around her.
There comes a time when you start blaming yourself for everything that happened to you. You would avoid to face the same individual again at any cost which in return makes you feel more depressed, lonely and sad. Keep remembering it was not something you wanted to happen at all.
There was a time when that girl started avoiding men and she did not wanted to get closer to men and there was a constant feeling that you are not clean because he raped you. You will face tough times questioning your own self that how did you even let this whole thing happen in the first place. At that time she decided she needs a break from everything.
That girl began going to the places she was avoiding before and decided to go to gym where he used to come and then started facing that person rather than running away from that place because she wanted to show him that she's strong enough and can deal with this situation. All these little steps were very helpful for her to get her life back on track.
That was the time when she at last chose to help different casualties who were experiencing this circumstance since it gave her inclination that by helping other people she can really deliver retribution from her assaulter and demonstrating to him that her life has not halted on account of this occurrence and she is certainly not a frail individual.
It can take years for you to tell your story after such an incident but you should never feel ashamed of yourself because it was not something that happened because of you or you were not at fault. You will go through many emotional phases and although what happened to you was horrible but still you have to learn how to trust people again. Rape cannot define your personality it was just a very bad phase of you life and it was a horrible time but things do get better with time all you need is faith.
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