Are You Suffering Through A Bad Marriage?

By Herbert Zabala


If you or someone that you know has been through issues in their marriage, you know full well just how difficult things can get. For a lot of people dealing with relationship troubles with their spouse, it can take a whole lot out on you both emotionally and even physically with all of the stress that can take place.

This happens for a variety of reasons. Some people simply have their head in the sand and refuse to acknowledge how bad things really are, for example. Living in a state of denial is not as uncommon as you would think, either.

It goes without saying that a lot of married couples will try to work through the tough times for a number of reasons. However, some people who are involved in a marriage that is simply not good for them will often have a hard time even realizing it.

As a matter of fact, it is not all that uncommon for someone who came from a broken home or a situation where their parents were always fighting to fall into a pattern of the same behavior. Because this type of action seems normal, it is difficult for them to understand that what they are going through is not necessarily healthy.

If you have children as a result of the marriage, this type of a situation is never healthy for them either and it warrants some thought on whether or not the marriage is worth keeping together.

Some of the signs that you could be involved in a bad marriage could include everything from no intimacy or affection to little or no communication between partners. In more severe cases, you will often see a relationship where there is a lot of verbal and even physical abuse.

There will often be a lot of excuses being made by either partner to try and stay away from home as much as possible or there will be a lot of issues that can arise from having a difficult time staying on the same page when it comes to important decisions.

Don't fall victim to the fallacy that you can save your marriage all on your own. If you do, you may wait until it is too late to see a counselor. Counselors are remarkably effective in helping couples suffering through a bad marriage; more than 50 percent of the time, couples that see a counselor wind up staying together.

If you have gone to counseling and you still do not see any good results coming out of it, then the chances are that you are holding onto something that may be too far gone to repair.

Try to remember that dealing with a bad marriage can end up being quite dangerous to your health and mental stability. If you have children, they need you to remain strong and steadfast no matter what may be going on within the relationship with the other parent.

If it means letting go of the marriage for the sake of your children as well as your sanity, then you may just find that everyone involved will be much happier in the long run. When you come to this realization, you need to remember that the dissolution of your marriage is nothing that you need to be ashamed about, especially if you worked hard to try and keep it together.




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