It is often the things that we want the most that become the most elusive to us. Never has this been more true than when we're talking about romantic relationships. If your ex has left you and you are trying to rebuild this relationship, your efforts at this point very well might be futile at the moment. Often right after a relationship, an ex will be stubborn and resistant to talking or even considering getting back together. While you struggle with the pain and you hear the age old advice to move on from your ex and your friends, time is passing. Time moves very slowly when we are waiting for something that we desire and the best thing to do at this point is to keep yourself busy and look to the future.
This piece of advice might be something that you should consider at least temporarily. Taking advantage of the time that you will be apart from your ex and allowing time to heal the wounds between you and your ex is solid advice. Many people spends weeks or months being upset and sad. You can take advantage of this time and kill two birds with one stone. By improving your life while you're apart from your ex you can become more attractive and you very well might wind up attracting your ex back more quickly than you realized.
Take advantage of this time apart from your ex and start a small business. The freedom of having your own business will be very attractive to your ex and the added income can make life easier when you get back together. If you have every thought of having your own business then this period in your life might be the perfect time to move forward with that plan.
The dream of owning your own business will be your focus for some time but as an added benefit, you will worry less about your ex. You will be doing something with your life instead of thinking about the problem of how to get your ex back. Often when we have a big problem such as a relationship that has headed south, we can't see the solution. Even though you might think that focusing on a solution is the logical way to solve this problem, we become so wrapped up in the drama and emotions surrounding the breakup that we become stuck. Also, all the attention that you are focusing upon your ex has a detrimental effect upon how they view you and feel about you. When a person becomes bigger than life or when we put them up on a pedestal, they usually shy away from us or flee from us. You will find that soon after you begin focusing on your business instead of your ex, they will have the freedom to love you again without the pressure that you were probably putting upon them.
Did you used to dream about traveling and seeing other countries? Was it a goal of yours to take an actual vacation and get away for a week or so? Think of the possibilities and write down the first thing that comes into your mind that excites you. How would it be to see Europe or the Alps? What would the sand in Mexico feel like between your toes? What would you eat on that cruise ship that you always dreamed of sailing on? Planning a trip and coming up with a budget to get you there can take your mind off of your ex and bring you added benefits that you probably hadn't thought of.
Be sure to fill your camera or phone with pictures of your trip beginning from the moment you leave your door and all throughout your vacation. Post these pictures on a few social networking sites and you can be sure that your ex will find out about it. The normal reaction that your ex will have is one of extreme jealousy and a little bit of pain as they peruse the photos of your dream vacation. If you are scared that your ex will become offended or upset that you are happy and living a good life without them then so be it. This trip might be the reminder that they need. Your ex will realize that you're a fun person to be with and you have a good life with a lot to offer. If your ex says a word about the fact that you seem to be handling the breakup rather well, you can remind them that it was their choice to end the relationship. You shouldn't be expected to sit at home alone waiting for them to call you. This vacation was a part of the healing process and a necessary step in your recovery from a very emotional breakup.
Your overall aim should be to improve yourself and your life. Self-improvement means making yourself feel better about your life and your place in this world. Meditation, yoga, working out and improving your mind and the amount of happiness in your life is what self-improvement is all about. Reading, taking a few classes at your local collage or finding a new hobby such as kayaking or horseback riding are a few ways that you can add something interesting to your life and feel better about yourself.
The common advice that you may have been given that says that you should distract yourself and forget about getting your ex back might hold some truth. Of course, you would be forgetting about getting back together with your ex only temporarily and your goal would be to focus on things that will actually help you to win your ex back. A watched pot never boils and sitting there looking at the phone waiting for your ex to call you may drive you insane. Instead, focus on rebuilding your life and doing some of the things that you always dreamed of and your phone will be ringing before you know it. You very well might find that you are still in the midst of some of these life changing projects when your time alone is over and your ex comes back to you.
This piece of advice might be something that you should consider at least temporarily. Taking advantage of the time that you will be apart from your ex and allowing time to heal the wounds between you and your ex is solid advice. Many people spends weeks or months being upset and sad. You can take advantage of this time and kill two birds with one stone. By improving your life while you're apart from your ex you can become more attractive and you very well might wind up attracting your ex back more quickly than you realized.
Take advantage of this time apart from your ex and start a small business. The freedom of having your own business will be very attractive to your ex and the added income can make life easier when you get back together. If you have every thought of having your own business then this period in your life might be the perfect time to move forward with that plan.
The dream of owning your own business will be your focus for some time but as an added benefit, you will worry less about your ex. You will be doing something with your life instead of thinking about the problem of how to get your ex back. Often when we have a big problem such as a relationship that has headed south, we can't see the solution. Even though you might think that focusing on a solution is the logical way to solve this problem, we become so wrapped up in the drama and emotions surrounding the breakup that we become stuck. Also, all the attention that you are focusing upon your ex has a detrimental effect upon how they view you and feel about you. When a person becomes bigger than life or when we put them up on a pedestal, they usually shy away from us or flee from us. You will find that soon after you begin focusing on your business instead of your ex, they will have the freedom to love you again without the pressure that you were probably putting upon them.
Did you used to dream about traveling and seeing other countries? Was it a goal of yours to take an actual vacation and get away for a week or so? Think of the possibilities and write down the first thing that comes into your mind that excites you. How would it be to see Europe or the Alps? What would the sand in Mexico feel like between your toes? What would you eat on that cruise ship that you always dreamed of sailing on? Planning a trip and coming up with a budget to get you there can take your mind off of your ex and bring you added benefits that you probably hadn't thought of.
Be sure to fill your camera or phone with pictures of your trip beginning from the moment you leave your door and all throughout your vacation. Post these pictures on a few social networking sites and you can be sure that your ex will find out about it. The normal reaction that your ex will have is one of extreme jealousy and a little bit of pain as they peruse the photos of your dream vacation. If you are scared that your ex will become offended or upset that you are happy and living a good life without them then so be it. This trip might be the reminder that they need. Your ex will realize that you're a fun person to be with and you have a good life with a lot to offer. If your ex says a word about the fact that you seem to be handling the breakup rather well, you can remind them that it was their choice to end the relationship. You shouldn't be expected to sit at home alone waiting for them to call you. This vacation was a part of the healing process and a necessary step in your recovery from a very emotional breakup.
Your overall aim should be to improve yourself and your life. Self-improvement means making yourself feel better about your life and your place in this world. Meditation, yoga, working out and improving your mind and the amount of happiness in your life is what self-improvement is all about. Reading, taking a few classes at your local collage or finding a new hobby such as kayaking or horseback riding are a few ways that you can add something interesting to your life and feel better about yourself.
The common advice that you may have been given that says that you should distract yourself and forget about getting your ex back might hold some truth. Of course, you would be forgetting about getting back together with your ex only temporarily and your goal would be to focus on things that will actually help you to win your ex back. A watched pot never boils and sitting there looking at the phone waiting for your ex to call you may drive you insane. Instead, focus on rebuilding your life and doing some of the things that you always dreamed of and your phone will be ringing before you know it. You very well might find that you are still in the midst of some of these life changing projects when your time alone is over and your ex comes back to you.
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