Basic Principles On How To Deal With Bullying

By Nelda Powers


Bullying is a problem that most of us have had to deal with in one part of our lives or the other. For a good number of people, it is a constant problem that they have to face every day. Bullying can be defined as the repeated act of aggressive behaviour to dominate others. It can be in form of mockery, threats, abuse and coercion towards particular targets. It has been linked to variation in gender, physique, class, religion; race, just to name a few. Bullying is one of the factors contributing to increased suicide cases especially among teens. As a result, various movements and laws have been created on how to deal with bullying.

The vice is broadly divided into three types. These include physical, emotional and verbal abuse. Each of these categories may be accompanied by violence, coercion, intimidation, insults or physical violence. There is a disproportionately high number of emotional abuse cases in females compared to their male counterparts. In the males, the predominant type is the physical abuse. Mockery is used almost equally in both sexes. It is frequently used when the victim resembles the opposite sex in their physical appearance or when they have any other physical disability or abnormality.

This act can also be categorised into direct and indirect. The direct form involves using force as in shoving, pushing, biting, kicking, pulling and so forth. The indirect type which is also known as social aggression entails trying to isolate the victim. This is made possible through spreading negative publicity concerning the target.

What exactly is the motive behind this kind of aggressive behaviour? Studies indicate that most bullies are weak at heart and would rather disguise their weakness by forcing it on others. Such people lack self esteem or may have been gone through the same a similar experience at some point in their life. Others learn this act from people that are close to them.

Some perpetrators suffer personality disorders. Bullies can be highly temperamental, obsessive or excessively concerned about self image. Their chances of performing well in school are usually low, despite the fact they enjoy attending school. They like to be regarded with fear and respect as well as being at the centre of a social group.

Victims usually end up feeling depressed, lonely and unwanted. There self esteem is greatly lowered and gradually lose interest in life. In the long run, it can lead to post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Victims accumulate bitterness and hatred that may in future may present violently. The good side of bullying can be where victims are able to stand up for themselves and gain the respect of the people around.

Parents, teachers and guardians are encouraged to attend anti bullying training programs to be help children cope. Schools can also come up with policies and peer counseling sessions. The state can actively participate by instituting laws against such behaviour.

To deal with bullying, learn to adopt a defensive approach. Do not feel inferior to the perpetrator as this will only make them stronger over you. Ensure that you remain confident when your bully approaches and let them know that you are not an easy target.




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