3 Signs That Your Ex Misses You

By Beth E Peterson


The confusion over how your ex feels about you after a breakup can be a little confusing, to say the least. What your ex says and does can send you a mixed message. You don't want to believe that it's truly over yet they say that they're done. They have broken up with you. On the other hand, you can't imagine that your ex feels nothing for you. How do you know what they feel? Is there still a chance and can your ex still be in love with you after all?

You are probably having a difficult enough time with your emotions and your life at the moment. Trying to unravel what is going on inside the mind of your ex is almost impossible. You need to know, though. You want to know if there is a spark of love left in their heart. Can you fan that flame and make that love burst to life once again? Knowing that your ex is still in love with you can give you that hope and help you to remain patient as your ex works through their emotions and feelings. These signs will tell you everything you need to know about what lies in their heart.

If you hear from some of your friends or family members that you ex was in touch with them then there is a good chance that your ex is missing you. Your ex might say that they were simply catching up with old friends or that they didn't want to be rude to your family but the truth is probably something completely different. For your ex to contact your mutual friends or your immediate family, there is probably still some love there for you and a feeling of loss that they needed to address. Contacting people close to you is a passive way of contacting you without disturbing you or contacting you directly.

You might be tempted to give your friends or family members the third degree when you hear that your ex contacted them. Resist this urge and instead remain cool and calm. Keep your private emotions and thoughts to yourself. It might be tempting to drop a few hints to your mutual friends that you miss your ex or that you are hoping to get back together. This will only make things uncomfortable for your friends and family. Make your ex contact you directly if they want to know what is going on in your life. Leave your friends and family out of your private matters until the day comes when you let them know that you're back together with your ex.

Next, has your ex tried contacting you directly to ask you a mundane question or to set up a meeting so they can return your belongings? If your ex misses you and still has feelings for you, they might reach out to you directly to hear your voice and satisfy that urge to connect with you. As much as you miss your ex and the daily contact that you once had, your ex is still a human being and taking something as important as an intimate relationship away will cause them to feel some loss. This is perfectly natural.

Before you go running around the house dancing for joy, understand that you still need to be cool and calm. You need to hide your emotions and avoid talking about the breakup, how sorry you are, how you want to get back together or anything negative having to do with what happened in the past. Your ex probably already knows that you want to get back together. All of this might be a way for your ex to start that process of reuniting with you. Any talk about getting back together will scare them off, though. Getting back together is all about connecting and falling in love again. Keep your cool and avoid talking about it. Just let it happen.

One good place to look for signs that your ex is still in love with you is on their social networking profile. While spying on your ex is frowned upon, you probably know that your ex looks at your profile to see what is going on in your life. Likewise, your ex knows that you look at their profile so they will sometimes post pictures or write about how happy they are with life right now. Chances are that the majority of information that your ex posts to their profile will be directed towards you without mentioning your name at all.

It can be dangerous to spy on your ex using their social networking profile. Sometimes it's better to live in ignorant bliss. Be sure that you're in a positive mood and understand that there is always a logical explanation for whatever you find. You might be tempted to become hurt or angry if your ex appears to be having a great time without you but keep in mind that often when someone is trying to convince the world that everything is fine, there are problems just underneath the surface. People often cover deep wounds with partying and acting as if things are just a little too wonderful to be true. An ex that posts picture of themselves with a new partner or a status update saying how happy they are is usually on the brink of falling apart. Be sure that you have your life together since this is your cue that they are about to implode.

It would be easy to continue to doubt that your ex has feelings for you. Often, people hide their emotions and cover them with other emotions such as hate, apparent apathy or anger. Be sure that if you notice any of these signs that your ex does still feel something for you. They will miss you no matter how much they might want to appear as if they don't miss you. They still love you no matter what they might say or do with their life. Your challenge is to make them fall in love with you again. Your goal needs to be to bring that love to the surface passively. Get your confidence back and be ready for the day when your ex simply can't stand being apart from you. Know in your hear that this day is coming and get to work formulating a plan for what you are going to say and do to get your ex back.




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