Let's not beat about the bush: it's not that easy to understand how our subconscious mind works and we often don't realize how powerful our subconscious mind really is. It's also common knowledge that we are the biggest obstacle to our own success. But what does this really mean? We may get angry and frustrated when things don't work out well for us and tend to start blaming people or circumstances or just believe it's a result of our "bad luck". Or we may even say it was just "good luck" when things work out well for us. But neither of these is really "the truth."
Not many people realize that their subconscious self-sabotage is the true reason for their challenges. Why? Well in short, many of us actually create our own problems - and have absolutely no idea we're doing it. So how do you solve something you aren't aware of?
In order to overcome self-sabotage we need to use conscious awareness to explore our emotions and fears, and understand how they might be influencing our actions. Why? Well, once we have determined the cause of any destructive behavior, we can then take the necessary steps to prevent it from happening in the future. Simple enough isn't it? If you don't know how or why something happens you can't do anything about it can you? So what's really happening when we sabotage ourselves?
Often subconsciously, we may be frightened by a particular outcome, even though we say we want it. Take for example, losing weight. Many overweight people have struggled for years, tried diet after diet, and still can't lose the weight (or keep it off). They berate themselves, push themselves harder, and try to force the weight off. But what's happening beneath the surface? Do they really want to lose their excess pounds? They may say they do, but what if their layers of fat are providing a sense of protection and security in an uncertain world? What if they feel the need to cover up and conceal themselves? Losing weight then becomes a threatening, frightening possibility. So they might sabotage their diet efforts in order to avoid feeling too vulnerable and exposed. Even though they say they want to lose weight (and even believe they do) they still might set themselves up for failure by sneaking food, skipping exercise, and then making a promise that they'll try harder tomorrow.
Those who self-sabotage may also be afraid of what others will think of them should they accomplish their goals. They might not believe they're worthy of the outcome, so they act in ways that will ensure their failure. These destructive efforts are done subconsciously, so even the saboteurs have fooled themselves into thinking they know what they want. If there is any uncertainty in their mind, any doubt, any fear, they will find a way to make sure it doesn't happen. Perhaps this describes you? Have you sabotaged yourself in the past? Are you still doing it now? Are you not able to move forward with your goals, no matter how hard you try?
Luckily, self-sabotage can be overcome by anyone. True, it's not always as simple as it sounds, as it requires one to recognize what's holding you back which, in turn, requires one to develop their conscious awareness. But, once you're aware of what you feel and what you do, the task of overcoming self-sabotage will be much easier.
If you've been struggling with a certain goal and things just don't seem to be working out for you, take a look at the setbacks that were encountered and evaluate the situation. Could any of the obstacles have been avoided by making wiser choices on your part? Are there a significantly high number of obstacles that seem to have arisen for this one particular goal. Ask yourself what you may be afraid of? What fears do you have? What uncertainties? What makes you feel uncomfortable about this goal? For what reasons would you try to hold yourself back? Can you think of anything at all?
When we take some time to understand how our subconscious mind works we can also come to realize that we are in control of our own destiny (successful or not!) With deeper understanding of our actions (and the impact they have) we can stop self-sabotage. And what happens when we become aware of our self-sabotage and can prevent it? Well, anything you want! When you remove the biggest obstacle to success (yourself) anything is possible for you.
Not many people realize that their subconscious self-sabotage is the true reason for their challenges. Why? Well in short, many of us actually create our own problems - and have absolutely no idea we're doing it. So how do you solve something you aren't aware of?
In order to overcome self-sabotage we need to use conscious awareness to explore our emotions and fears, and understand how they might be influencing our actions. Why? Well, once we have determined the cause of any destructive behavior, we can then take the necessary steps to prevent it from happening in the future. Simple enough isn't it? If you don't know how or why something happens you can't do anything about it can you? So what's really happening when we sabotage ourselves?
Often subconsciously, we may be frightened by a particular outcome, even though we say we want it. Take for example, losing weight. Many overweight people have struggled for years, tried diet after diet, and still can't lose the weight (or keep it off). They berate themselves, push themselves harder, and try to force the weight off. But what's happening beneath the surface? Do they really want to lose their excess pounds? They may say they do, but what if their layers of fat are providing a sense of protection and security in an uncertain world? What if they feel the need to cover up and conceal themselves? Losing weight then becomes a threatening, frightening possibility. So they might sabotage their diet efforts in order to avoid feeling too vulnerable and exposed. Even though they say they want to lose weight (and even believe they do) they still might set themselves up for failure by sneaking food, skipping exercise, and then making a promise that they'll try harder tomorrow.
Those who self-sabotage may also be afraid of what others will think of them should they accomplish their goals. They might not believe they're worthy of the outcome, so they act in ways that will ensure their failure. These destructive efforts are done subconsciously, so even the saboteurs have fooled themselves into thinking they know what they want. If there is any uncertainty in their mind, any doubt, any fear, they will find a way to make sure it doesn't happen. Perhaps this describes you? Have you sabotaged yourself in the past? Are you still doing it now? Are you not able to move forward with your goals, no matter how hard you try?
Luckily, self-sabotage can be overcome by anyone. True, it's not always as simple as it sounds, as it requires one to recognize what's holding you back which, in turn, requires one to develop their conscious awareness. But, once you're aware of what you feel and what you do, the task of overcoming self-sabotage will be much easier.
If you've been struggling with a certain goal and things just don't seem to be working out for you, take a look at the setbacks that were encountered and evaluate the situation. Could any of the obstacles have been avoided by making wiser choices on your part? Are there a significantly high number of obstacles that seem to have arisen for this one particular goal. Ask yourself what you may be afraid of? What fears do you have? What uncertainties? What makes you feel uncomfortable about this goal? For what reasons would you try to hold yourself back? Can you think of anything at all?
When we take some time to understand how our subconscious mind works we can also come to realize that we are in control of our own destiny (successful or not!) With deeper understanding of our actions (and the impact they have) we can stop self-sabotage. And what happens when we become aware of our self-sabotage and can prevent it? Well, anything you want! When you remove the biggest obstacle to success (yourself) anything is possible for you.
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