There are these moments during particular days where I have to be incredibly and openly honest with myself about what I'm going through and feeling. I know when it is about to come up because I get this wave of chills from the top of my neck down to my back and I feel my mood start to change. I used to be afraid of it...the sensation of water about dripping down my back. But in time I've learnt the correct way to sit with it.
What follows after is pure stillness. Deep in thought. Numb. I feel truth bubbling to the surface.
Frequently we are going through life not realizing that there are things under the surface. We believe that we have totally recovered or have moved on, but actually there are still pieces to the puzzle that have to be put together. Maybe Maybe it is one piece left, perhaps it's just this moment where you have to sit down and get quiet for the last time, or maybe it demands more of your attention.
There's an engaging balance between moving forward and making the effort, whatever the situation might be and starting to appreciate what is happening inside of you. I suspect almost all of the time when someone is hurt and other people recognize it they try and tell that person to bounce themselves up as quickly as possible and forget the past. This advice, while intended to be beneficial, isn't really realistic - because the same person who gave that information, in the same situation, couldn't possibly take it.
The best advice you could give isn't to forget as fast as you can and blast forward, but to sit with whatever is happening within. To let it all flow through you. The sole way you can really understand what something basically means to you, especially in a relationship, is by experiencing the result.
Have a very honest moment.
Don't run or hide from feelings that you would associate as negative. They really are life's way of balancing you out. When you attempt to block them or manipulate them, you are putting yourself in a horrid place. Let life do what it must do to keep you learning and growing.
When the moment is over, then move forward. Don't try to change it while you are in it. Something is trying to talk with you. Open yourself to emotions and let them speak reason into your heart.
What follows after is pure stillness. Deep in thought. Numb. I feel truth bubbling to the surface.
Frequently we are going through life not realizing that there are things under the surface. We believe that we have totally recovered or have moved on, but actually there are still pieces to the puzzle that have to be put together. Maybe Maybe it is one piece left, perhaps it's just this moment where you have to sit down and get quiet for the last time, or maybe it demands more of your attention.
There's an engaging balance between moving forward and making the effort, whatever the situation might be and starting to appreciate what is happening inside of you. I suspect almost all of the time when someone is hurt and other people recognize it they try and tell that person to bounce themselves up as quickly as possible and forget the past. This advice, while intended to be beneficial, isn't really realistic - because the same person who gave that information, in the same situation, couldn't possibly take it.
The best advice you could give isn't to forget as fast as you can and blast forward, but to sit with whatever is happening within. To let it all flow through you. The sole way you can really understand what something basically means to you, especially in a relationship, is by experiencing the result.
Have a very honest moment.
Don't run or hide from feelings that you would associate as negative. They really are life's way of balancing you out. When you attempt to block them or manipulate them, you are putting yourself in a horrid place. Let life do what it must do to keep you learning and growing.
When the moment is over, then move forward. Don't try to change it while you are in it. Something is trying to talk with you. Open yourself to emotions and let them speak reason into your heart.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is the author of The Words Of Encouragement, a website dedicated to bringing the best quotes, motivational content on the web, and blogs all to one place. Need some more content to move forward with your life and recover from a relationship? Try these ex boyfriend quotes out.
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