Just because I didn't react doesn't mean I didn't make a choice. Just because I didn't explode at you doesn't meant that there weren't any consequences to your actions.
When I was little, I had absolutely no control over my emotions. Every single time something would go wrong I would explode and turn into a living tornado. I would react to everything that was going on in life and had no ability to slow myself down.
As I grew older, I got quieter. I stopped talking as much and became more and more aware of what was going on around me. I became an observer instead of someone who was running around with no ability to engage in self-reflection.
And because I did all of this, I learned some very important lessons about life.
Not everything needs some sort of big reaction.
A display. A fight. A grand gesture. Words exchanged.
Not everything has to have an equally matched counter reaction to what happened.
I found out that there's a lot to be said for keeping calm, cool, and collected under significant amounts of pressure. Instead of fighting back, sometimes it's far better to be more fluid than anything else.
But there's something else I learned all of those years later.
It was the power of action beneath the surface. What I mean by that is just because you didn't make a grand display of something doesn't mean that you didn't make decisions in that moment that weren't available to the naked eye.
You can act in silence.
Patiently.
Calmly.
If you know what is good for you, you will understand that losing control of everything and exploding is only going to hurt you more in the long run.
And most of all, I refuse to embarrass you and lose myself along the way.
Because of course you could raise all hell, but is that really going to be the best thing for you? Probably not.
It's time to try a different approach.
When I was little, I had absolutely no control over my emotions. Every single time something would go wrong I would explode and turn into a living tornado. I would react to everything that was going on in life and had no ability to slow myself down.
As I grew older, I got quieter. I stopped talking as much and became more and more aware of what was going on around me. I became an observer instead of someone who was running around with no ability to engage in self-reflection.
And because I did all of this, I learned some very important lessons about life.
Not everything needs some sort of big reaction.
A display. A fight. A grand gesture. Words exchanged.
Not everything has to have an equally matched counter reaction to what happened.
I found out that there's a lot to be said for keeping calm, cool, and collected under significant amounts of pressure. Instead of fighting back, sometimes it's far better to be more fluid than anything else.
But there's something else I learned all of those years later.
It was the power of action beneath the surface. What I mean by that is just because you didn't make a grand display of something doesn't mean that you didn't make decisions in that moment that weren't available to the naked eye.
You can act in silence.
Patiently.
Calmly.
If you know what is good for you, you will understand that losing control of everything and exploding is only going to hurt you more in the long run.
And most of all, I refuse to embarrass you and lose myself along the way.
Because of course you could raise all hell, but is that really going to be the best thing for you? Probably not.
It's time to try a different approach.
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