Use Some Common Sense To Get Your Girlfriend Back

By Tim Gordon


Whether you've just gone through a breakup and you want to get your ex back or you want to move on, often overcoming the pain can be a seemingly impossible task. You think about your ex all the time. Every morning you relive the pain and emotions of being alone. There's anger, sorrow, depression and a feeling of worthlessness that goes along with each and every breakup no matter what the circumstances might have been.

First, you're never going to be able to convince your ex girlfriend or your wife to come back to you. Breaking up with you was her decision and she is going to have to think that getting back together is her decision also. Respect her decision to leave you. You can never really win an argument with a woman and even if you win, you've lost.

Hounding her and wanting to discuss what went wrong and how you think the relationship can be fixed only shows that you don't respect her decision. When the time comes and she decides that she wants to get back together, you'll respect that decision, correct?

Being nice to her, buying her gifts and doing things for her isn't going to win her back either. Bribery just makes things awkward. Even emotional bribery such as telling her that you care about her, that you love her or even checking on her only serve to make her feel uncomfortable.

Dwelling upon the past and what you did wrong can damage your already broken ego. You probably feel bad about yourself. You were rejected in some way in this relationship and the resulting breakup. It's unfortunate for your ex though because there will come a day when you'll begin to feel better about yourself and your ex is going to realize that they judged you poorly. No matter what the circumstances were, you deserve to be loved and cared for by someone special in this world. You deserve to be treated well and while none of us is perfect, you are unique and wonderful in your own way.

Loving yourself, accepting yourself as you are is important. In this life there are going to be times when you will be alone. You have to be your own best friend.

Next, remember that actions mean everything and words mean almost nothing to a woman. You can talk all day long about what you're going to do with your life. She will be filled with doubt and be telling herself that it will never happen. On the other hand, improving yourself in various areas of your life such as your physique, eating habits, appearance, social status or career without talking about it, speaks volumes. Do something great with your life that you always dreamed of and then let her find out about it. Actions speak louder than words to a woman.

Getting past the pain of your breakup isn't an easy process. There are going to be times when you feel like you are cured but those black thoughts and feelings of despair might be right around the corner for you. Understanding this and being patient with yourself is something to keep in mind. You can and will feel better one day soon and the pain from this breakup will be a distant memory.




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