Getting rid of your shyness may seem impossible but with a little effort and the desire to be more outgoing with the opposite sex then you can definitely overcome shyness. It is important to know that the fears you feel when shyness hits you is typically always much worse than the reality of the situation. Fake it until you make it! This is an infamous saying in the sales world.It is a great way to start teaching yourself new behavioral habits.
Making friends and attending social functions may seem like a nightmare to a shy person. No one wants to stand in the corner alone, but a shy person may lack the ability to approach new people.You can learn how to overcome shyness and build confidence by developing new habits and social skills. Shy people may have to exert a large amount of effort in order to start a conversation or attend a party. Determination is a key factor in learning how to overcome shyness.
Learn how to use daily affirmations and positive mind influence. Again, this takes work but the power to change your shyness to confidence can come simply from saying things to yourself every day like "I like myself!" or "I am a winner!"This may sound silly but take time out alone to roleplay situations that you get really nervous about. Pretend that you are talking to that guy or girl that makes you shy. Be that outgoing person that you wish to be. This roleplaying will send messages to your sub-consciousness and help your inner-self change.
Dress to impress even if nobody is looking. Iron those clothes! Keep that hair neat! In other words, always look your best. This does amazing things to help you feel better about yourself and overcome shyness.Start projects in life that make you feel good. Start a personal project, totally clean up your house clutter and your car. Work on a new hobby. How can these things help you with overcoming shyness? Simple by working on things that make you feel good produces a natural aphrodisiac that turns you on and which indirectly turns on people around you.
So what is it that causes us to experience shyness? We have all experienced shyness at some point in life to a certain degree but the root cause really boils down to the following,Weak self image, overly occupied with self, and labelling. All of these negatives may have happened at some point during life situations and experiences that you have not come to closure with. These produce the negative emotion that is shyness. So how does one overcome shyness? One of the main ways of battling shyness is to increases awareness. This means you need to take into control your experience of shyness.Fist step in overcoming your shyness is to understand it.Every one has a unique type of shyness that is triggered by certain events, settings and situations. You need to find out what exactly is causing your trigger and what it is that you are concerned about.
Combat your fears of rejections by realizing that everyone gets rejected at one point or another, everyone! Learn not to take rejection personally. Use it as a tool.Be honest and up front!... tell people that you are shy up front, be honest with them. You will not believe just how nervous and shy the other person is as well.Last but certainly not least. pray to God. Share your shyness with God and ask as him for the strength and courage to overcome it.
Sometimes it seems that the task of overcoming shyness is insurmountable. Every time you find yourself in a strange situation, you just instinctively want to disappear into a hole in the ground - not that there's a convenient hole in the neighborhood of course. Check out these tips for overcoming shyness.
Examine your shyness.This can actually take a bit of effort. Especially if your first reaction is to just say "but I'm always shy".Take the time to dig deeper. I'd be surprised if you were always shy in every single situation you ever encounter. So take some time to figure out the situations where you're shy more often than not.Then give each one you've identified a score out of ten. And, no, I won't believe you if they all score ten out of ten!Pick on one of your shy situations,From the (probably long) list you've compiled, pick one situation where you're normally shy.
Never run away from what it is that is making you uncomfortable,When you leave a setting or situation that is making you shy you are basically reinforcing that negative aspect of yourself and making it stronger. Turn these fearful situations into a period where you become the observer and dig into your psyche to find out what it is that is making you react in this way.
Speak more often,Chances are that if you're shy you also don't speak much to other people.Start to change your habits so that instead of being almost mute, you start to make yourself heard.It may be that the people around you are actually surprised when you do this. They may even comment on you speaking. That's not unusual when you begin to come out of your shell. Do your best not to turn a bright shade of red when this happens.You're not expected to instantly come up with some kind of witty banter in this situation but at least uttering a few words back to the person who's commented on you speaking will help you escape from your natural instinct of imitating a deer caught in headlights.Let your hair down occasionally,Allow yourself some "you" time!There are times when you don't actually have to be on your guard.The more you can spot these opportunities to allow yourself not to be as shy as you used to be, the better.Play a game with yourself and aim to find at least one of these opportunities to let your hair down every day. I promise you that they are there in plentitude, you just have to be aware that they are waiting for you to take advantage of them.
Making friends and attending social functions may seem like a nightmare to a shy person. No one wants to stand in the corner alone, but a shy person may lack the ability to approach new people.You can learn how to overcome shyness and build confidence by developing new habits and social skills. Shy people may have to exert a large amount of effort in order to start a conversation or attend a party. Determination is a key factor in learning how to overcome shyness.
Learn how to use daily affirmations and positive mind influence. Again, this takes work but the power to change your shyness to confidence can come simply from saying things to yourself every day like "I like myself!" or "I am a winner!"This may sound silly but take time out alone to roleplay situations that you get really nervous about. Pretend that you are talking to that guy or girl that makes you shy. Be that outgoing person that you wish to be. This roleplaying will send messages to your sub-consciousness and help your inner-self change.
Dress to impress even if nobody is looking. Iron those clothes! Keep that hair neat! In other words, always look your best. This does amazing things to help you feel better about yourself and overcome shyness.Start projects in life that make you feel good. Start a personal project, totally clean up your house clutter and your car. Work on a new hobby. How can these things help you with overcoming shyness? Simple by working on things that make you feel good produces a natural aphrodisiac that turns you on and which indirectly turns on people around you.
So what is it that causes us to experience shyness? We have all experienced shyness at some point in life to a certain degree but the root cause really boils down to the following,Weak self image, overly occupied with self, and labelling. All of these negatives may have happened at some point during life situations and experiences that you have not come to closure with. These produce the negative emotion that is shyness. So how does one overcome shyness? One of the main ways of battling shyness is to increases awareness. This means you need to take into control your experience of shyness.Fist step in overcoming your shyness is to understand it.Every one has a unique type of shyness that is triggered by certain events, settings and situations. You need to find out what exactly is causing your trigger and what it is that you are concerned about.
Combat your fears of rejections by realizing that everyone gets rejected at one point or another, everyone! Learn not to take rejection personally. Use it as a tool.Be honest and up front!... tell people that you are shy up front, be honest with them. You will not believe just how nervous and shy the other person is as well.Last but certainly not least. pray to God. Share your shyness with God and ask as him for the strength and courage to overcome it.
Sometimes it seems that the task of overcoming shyness is insurmountable. Every time you find yourself in a strange situation, you just instinctively want to disappear into a hole in the ground - not that there's a convenient hole in the neighborhood of course. Check out these tips for overcoming shyness.
Examine your shyness.This can actually take a bit of effort. Especially if your first reaction is to just say "but I'm always shy".Take the time to dig deeper. I'd be surprised if you were always shy in every single situation you ever encounter. So take some time to figure out the situations where you're shy more often than not.Then give each one you've identified a score out of ten. And, no, I won't believe you if they all score ten out of ten!Pick on one of your shy situations,From the (probably long) list you've compiled, pick one situation where you're normally shy.
Never run away from what it is that is making you uncomfortable,When you leave a setting or situation that is making you shy you are basically reinforcing that negative aspect of yourself and making it stronger. Turn these fearful situations into a period where you become the observer and dig into your psyche to find out what it is that is making you react in this way.
Speak more often,Chances are that if you're shy you also don't speak much to other people.Start to change your habits so that instead of being almost mute, you start to make yourself heard.It may be that the people around you are actually surprised when you do this. They may even comment on you speaking. That's not unusual when you begin to come out of your shell. Do your best not to turn a bright shade of red when this happens.You're not expected to instantly come up with some kind of witty banter in this situation but at least uttering a few words back to the person who's commented on you speaking will help you escape from your natural instinct of imitating a deer caught in headlights.Let your hair down occasionally,Allow yourself some "you" time!There are times when you don't actually have to be on your guard.The more you can spot these opportunities to allow yourself not to be as shy as you used to be, the better.Play a game with yourself and aim to find at least one of these opportunities to let your hair down every day. I promise you that they are there in plentitude, you just have to be aware that they are waiting for you to take advantage of them.
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