How You Should Be Dealing With A Breakup Positively

By Jose Stone


Being in a romantic relationship with another person is a feeling that is hard to explain because of the mixture of emotions possible. You would not only think now about just yourself but also about them when you make important decisions. Because doing so will not affect only you but also them either directly or indirectly.

But relationships end sometimes because of various reasons even when it was either a good or bad one. This is the reason people require assistance with dealing with a breakup to help in minimizing their negative emotions and thoughts. Being together for a long or short time is irrelevant when you measure how affected the person can be.

First thing you should do is to express what you feel either through talking to a friend you trust or in writing them out. Suppressing the emotions of loneliness, sadness, anger, rejection is the natural impulse of most people but doing so does not help you move on. Doing this will make you realize why it did not work and why being not with them is better.

Individuals who experienced this usually either go over eating to make food their coping mechanism or over controlling in what they eat. Doing this is not healthy specially when you have no idea on how to do it properly. Be sure the food you are eating is nutritious and not those that are considered junk.

Start exercising if you did not previously exercise already before your breakup because your stress levels can be lowered by being active. This improves also the cognitive functions and mood plus it provides a good distraction away from unpleasant things. Be careful though in overdoing it as it might become a punishment or compulsive behavior instead.

Remind yourself of all the good things you have experienced in life because they might get overwhelmed by the negative experiences like this one. Your judgment may be clouded by this painful breakup and you could be focusing only on negative ones. List the things instead which made you grateful to shift your focus with positive events.

Do the things that you love to do even before this painful event has happened even though getting excited about these things is difficult. Force yourself in doing the those activities which can make you feel good such as having a massage or coffee with a friend. Watching comedy shows and movies also helps because laughter could boost mood.

Try the obsession diet that lets yourself obsess, indulge or write in self pity without reservation but with a time limit of five minutes within an hour. Immediately stop when you ran out of time and wait for one hour to start again and reduce its time limit every single day. You will realize then that your thoughts can be controlled performing an exercise like this.

Your well being might be improved by performing towards others any acts of kindness and this helps in relieving depression. Giving back is a powerful way or rechanneling your love. Helping others empowers you and opens your heart as well.




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