The word "should" can be incredibly dangerous.
There are major expectations that go along with the word "should." There are great amounts of suffering that attach to that word as well.
That word can do a lot of damage in your life and keep you stuck completely in the past.
Maybe you've heard yourself say this before...
"That shouldn't have happened...this should have happened...it should have gone this way."
But the truth is, it didn't. It didn't go that way.
When you live in the world of "should" you aren't actually living in the present moment. You are living in the past or the future.
When you have a "should" that is living in the past, you aren't fully able to come to terms with what is actually going on in your life. You think that it should have gone some way it didn't actually go and that brings a great amount of pain and suffering to your life because you can't accept the reality of the situation.
So what do we need to do? Come back to the present moment.
When your "should" lives in the future, you are limiting yourself to a very shallow way of seeing into a land that is completely unknown and foreign to you. "It should happen like this." And if it doesn't? Usually there is a feeling of being let down or disappointed in what actually did happen.
You have to come back.
Truth is, we are all going to go through incredibly painful times in our lives. There will be moments that challenge us, make us want to fall to our knees in tears and make us crack under pressure.
Darkness in our lives will always be present.
But endless suffering comes with being unable to accept the truth fully.
So you have to look at it like this - what happened happened and it couldn't have gone down any other way. q
And if you let go of the future, and come back to this moment?
What will happen...will happen...and it will be the most perfect thing for me.
No "should."
No past...because you've come to terms with it.
No living in the future anymore because you are here in this moment.
You're here.
Stay connected.
Accept.
There are major expectations that go along with the word "should." There are great amounts of suffering that attach to that word as well.
That word can do a lot of damage in your life and keep you stuck completely in the past.
Maybe you've heard yourself say this before...
"That shouldn't have happened...this should have happened...it should have gone this way."
But the truth is, it didn't. It didn't go that way.
When you live in the world of "should" you aren't actually living in the present moment. You are living in the past or the future.
When you have a "should" that is living in the past, you aren't fully able to come to terms with what is actually going on in your life. You think that it should have gone some way it didn't actually go and that brings a great amount of pain and suffering to your life because you can't accept the reality of the situation.
So what do we need to do? Come back to the present moment.
When your "should" lives in the future, you are limiting yourself to a very shallow way of seeing into a land that is completely unknown and foreign to you. "It should happen like this." And if it doesn't? Usually there is a feeling of being let down or disappointed in what actually did happen.
You have to come back.
Truth is, we are all going to go through incredibly painful times in our lives. There will be moments that challenge us, make us want to fall to our knees in tears and make us crack under pressure.
Darkness in our lives will always be present.
But endless suffering comes with being unable to accept the truth fully.
So you have to look at it like this - what happened happened and it couldn't have gone down any other way. q
And if you let go of the future, and come back to this moment?
What will happen...will happen...and it will be the most perfect thing for me.
No "should."
No past...because you've come to terms with it.
No living in the future anymore because you are here in this moment.
You're here.
Stay connected.
Accept.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is a professional life coach at AYKME coaching. Dive into some great bible quotes on faith by clicking here or read more quotes on hope.
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