Cultivating Patience When You Are Still In Love With Your Ex

By Stacy Schultz


Do you feel your ex slipping away from you little by little every day? Are you clinging to your old relationship and wishing that your ex would reach out to you? Are you settling for scraps of attention from the one you love with all your heart?

Even though it's perfectly normal to worry and feel down about your breakup, if you're serious about getting her back you need to get tough with yourself.

There are many different problems that happen in a romantic relationship that can lead to a breakup. Sometimes we make mistakes that we later regret. Perhaps our partner becomes the target of someone else's charming ways and flattery and they are lured away from us. Other times life gets in the way of our relationship and problems with family, friends, money, time and general problems in life cause us to drift apart in our relationship.

Taking some time to grieve can be important. Allowing yourself some time to cry, become angry or upset and feel those feeling is important. Denying these emotions might cause problems later on in life.

Instead, remember the fact that your ex was in love with you not too long ago. These feelings and emotions don't just go away. Deep down inside there is a piece of her heart that still beats for you. She might not be in love with how things were going in your relationship but she loved you and she does still love you.

In addition, it's natural for someone to reject you when you are putting too much pressure on them. You might love your partner with every bit of your heart and adore them more than anyone else in the word but there's a difference between desiring to be in a romantic relationship with someone that you love and being desperate to be in a romantic relationship with someone that you love. Desperation is an ugly and very unattractive force that can be felt by your ex. It is seen in your body language and how you are almost begging them to love you. Desperation repulses people sometimes without them even knowing why. Most people will say that they feel uneasy around someone that is desperate. You may have even experienced this at one point in your life when you had no interest in spending time with someone who seemed very nice to everyone else around you.

You very well might find that your ex will come back to you when you least expect it. Often when we're in the middle of making big changes in our life and we're not focusing on a relationship, the love of our life comes back to us. When we stop focusing on the problem, the solution presents itself or the problem resolves itself all on its own. By focusing on your breakup and the heartache that you're feeling, you give this problem energy and power to control your life. Once you forget about it and instead focus on yourself, things begin to change.

Will she start calling you or texting you and eventually she will start being around you more often or will it all happen in an instant? Will she just show up at your door and want to get back together? It's all up to you. It's your dream and those thoughts will help you get through the tough moments and enable you to gain the confidence that you need to win your girlfriend back.




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