How do you know whether or not your marriage is going to survive? This article may help you decide. If I made you pick one thing that would predict whether your marriage will survive or not, what would it be?
Most people will actually say "conflict". If you are always fighting then that can't be good for your marriage, right? Wrong
Some people may not believe this but it is actually the opposite of that. In fact there are studies that show how avoiding conflict is the number determining factor whether you are destined for divorce or not. Ironic isn't it? We really think that we are saving our marriage by avoiding conflict but truth be told we are doing the complete opposite and destroying it
Don't take this the wrong way, I'm not saying that you should go and pick a fight with your spouse. Starting fights for a happy marriage doesn't work either. I am just saying that people in healthy marriages fight. In other words, it is a sign that you truly love one another when you are willing to fight for your marriage. To be happily married, you just have to learn how to fight well.
Successful couples have mastered the art of discussing their differences. This is not something that comes natural to most people, you need to learn this skill. But once you have learned this then your fights will actually propel your marriage forward.
I don't care who you are, every successful couple has their disagreements because it is a fact that no two people are 100% compatible. Having your differences is a very healthy part of a good marriage.
The key to succeeding in marriage is not finding the right person; it's learning to fight well with the person you found. You'll have "irreconcilable differences" with anyone you pick. The question is whether or not you can learn to discuss them.
Most people will actually say "conflict". If you are always fighting then that can't be good for your marriage, right? Wrong
Some people may not believe this but it is actually the opposite of that. In fact there are studies that show how avoiding conflict is the number determining factor whether you are destined for divorce or not. Ironic isn't it? We really think that we are saving our marriage by avoiding conflict but truth be told we are doing the complete opposite and destroying it
Don't take this the wrong way, I'm not saying that you should go and pick a fight with your spouse. Starting fights for a happy marriage doesn't work either. I am just saying that people in healthy marriages fight. In other words, it is a sign that you truly love one another when you are willing to fight for your marriage. To be happily married, you just have to learn how to fight well.
Successful couples have mastered the art of discussing their differences. This is not something that comes natural to most people, you need to learn this skill. But once you have learned this then your fights will actually propel your marriage forward.
I don't care who you are, every successful couple has their disagreements because it is a fact that no two people are 100% compatible. Having your differences is a very healthy part of a good marriage.
The key to succeeding in marriage is not finding the right person; it's learning to fight well with the person you found. You'll have "irreconcilable differences" with anyone you pick. The question is whether or not you can learn to discuss them.
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