With Help From A Couples Counselor In Bethesda Many Relationship Are Rescued

By Laura Cooper


Becoming involved in a close relationship with a potential life partner is a serious matter. Two people decide that they love and respect each other enough to go through life together. Unfortunately, relationships often do not last, and for many different reasons. Some people simply cannot cope with the idea of being bound to one other person. Others do not want to change their ways. Whatever the reason, in many cases a couples counselor in Bethesda can provide sound advice.

Society have changed in many ways and the roles of the sexes in a relationship has certainly changed greatly. Women no longer fulfil the traditional role of mother, cook and housemaid. They work and they have rewarding careers of their own. Men are expected to be equal partners in all things. Confusion regarding the role of each partner is all too often the main reasons for problems in a relationship.

Far too many people enter into a relationship for the wrong reasons. Some feel lonely and think that a partner will solve the problem. Others need the security of a formal relationship. Yet others simply want companionship when they need it and there are those that have physical desires that they think will be satisfied by a formal partner. Most of these motivations for entering a relationship are more than likely to backfire.

It is one thing to leave a partner but it is quite another thing to end a relationship that has produced children. In such cases it is vital to put the futures and well being of the children at the top of the priority list. In order to make sensible and realistic decisions in this regard it is highly advisable that both partners see a counsellor, who will guide them through both the legal and emotional minefields.

It is interesting to note that a large percentage of people seeking professional help have been in a single relationship for a long time. In that time, they have built up a joint estate, own assets together and have joint savings, insurance and investments. They do not want to jeopardize everything they worked so hard for and are therefore often willing to seek help from a professional.

Many therapists agree that a large percentage of relationships flounder due to small differences, irritations and disagreements. The partners do not communicate properly and these small matters quickly become major issues. In such cases the counsellor can help both partners to identify the issues that caused a deterioration of their relationship and to see those issues in their proper perspective. The role of the counsellor is to act as facilitator, not to prescribe solutions.

In some cases it is advisable to end a relationship. Some people are abusive and violent, both physically and emotionally. Others make demands that are totally unacceptable to the other partner. Partners become unfaithful, fail to meet their obligations and neglect the other partner. In such cases it is best to call it a day and to get out of the relationship.

Committing to an intimate relationship is a serious step. It would be wise to think very carefully before going this route. It may even be best for both prospective partners to agree to see a counsellor before making a commitment.




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